What You Learned: How to Get Better
Stop looking at your screen for feedback; talk directly to the camera lens. Beginners look at the display for information; Experts look at the lens to show confidence.
Move your video window to the top-center of your computer screen. Beginners let the software decide where things go; Experts arrange the screen so their eyes naturally line up with the camera lens.
Hide your own video feed right after checking your setup. Beginners constantly check how they look; Experts remove the distraction to focus only on the people they are talking to.
Use the "Look When Talking, Glance When Listening" method: look at the lens when you are speaking, and the screen when you are listening. Beginners stare blankly, missing social cues; Experts use the lens to lead and the screen to "read" the mood of the group.
Move back from the camera so people can see your upper body and hands. The Change: Beginners look like just a talking head; Experts show their whole body to communicate more openly using body language.
The Lens-First Method
The Lens-First Method is the most ignored way to gain power in the modern workplace. Most people treat video calls like watching TV, keeping their eyes glued to the grid of faces or themselves on the screen. This is a big mistake. This "looking down" constantly makes you seem unfocused and less important to everyone on the call. You aren't just joining a meeting; you are running a digital show.
To become great at this, you first need to stop just meeting the basic technical requirements and start aiming for Total Visual Control. In the first step, you just make sure you look like you are actually there.
But the best people focus on Influencing Others Visually, using the "Eye Contact Switch" to check facial reactions while still owning the audience's attention. The final goal is Visual Control. At this top level, you use Calm and Steady Focus (using the camera to show strong confidence and guide the conversation through your calm appearance). Controlling the camera lens means controlling what people think. To be better than average, you must change from someone who just does tasks to someone who is a key planner.
Checklist: The Lens-First Method (Stage 3 Skill)
| What Happens | Warning Sign (Average / Low Trust) | Good Sign (Total Visual Control / High Confidence) |
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Results
People often have to ask you to repeat things or explain yourself again. Looking down is seen as doubt, so people question your good ideas.
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Less Re-Explaining
You hear fewer requests for clarification. Staring straight ahead shows you are sure of yourself, which leads to quicker agreement on your plans.
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Building Trust Fast
You can create a feeling of a personal, one-on-one chat, even in a big group. This helps build strong relationships quickly by removing the digital distance.
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Your Role
You are seen as just someone who handles technical tasks or sits quietly in meetings. When the group is visible, looking away shows you aren't leading the meeting.
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Controlling the Edge
You use the lens to connect with the most important person in the room, making everyone else feel like they are included in that strong connection.
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Smart Switching
You know when to look at the lens (to show power) and when to look at the screen (to notice small facial changes). This shows you are both the leader and the most attentive person there.
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How You Talk
Your eyes follow things moving on the screen (like messages or other people's videos), showing you are easily distracted. You use filler words to cover up pauses because you don't feel confident just looking ahead.
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Owning the Silence
You use the "Lens-Lock" during important silent moments to set the pace. By looking steady at the camera during pauses, you put mental pressure on others to either give up their point or show their true opinion.
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Calm Control
You use the "Lens-Lock" during important silent moments to set the pace. By looking steady at the camera during pauses, you put mental pressure on others to either give up their point or show their true opinion.
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Long-Term View
You look too fixed, like a robot, without showing real emotion. Over time, people get tired of watching you and start ignoring what you say.
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Smart Looking Around
You switch your look between the lens (to show power) and the screen (to gather information about feelings), showing you are both the boss and the most observant person in the meeting.
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Smooth Switching
You switch your look between the lens (to show power) and the screen (to gather information about feelings), showing you are both the boss and the most observant person in the meeting.
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What Our Top Experts Think
- Key Move The shift from Level 2 (Trying to Convince) to Level 3 (Just Being) happens when you stop trying* and start *doing.
- The Beginner's View A new person looks at the camera because they were told it's the "right thing to do."
- The Expert's View A senior leader looks at the camera because they know that online, the lens is the only way to physically show their "will" and "control." Those who master Calm Focus don't just attend meetings; they set the speed of every conversation by how composed they look. Control of the camera means control of the story.
Level 1 (New Hire to Junior Level)
At this level, success is only about Following Rules. You are not trying to build relationships; you must meet Strict Minimums. If your eyes look away from the set spot, the system flags you as distracted, unprepared, or hiding something. There is no in-between.
Look at the Camera
Rule: Keep your pupils pointed at the camera lens, not the screen, whenever you are talking.
Why: People naturally look at the screen to see faces. Looking there creates a "downward look" that seems like you are avoiding eye contact. You must force yourself to look at the camera to meet the basic rule for "eye contact."
Keep the Camera Level
Rule: Raise your camera or laptop so the lens is at the same level as your eyes.
Why: A camera too low gives people a view up your nose, and a camera too high makes you look like you are looking down on people. Any angle other than straight on is a failure of looking professional.
Position the Person You Talk To
Rule: Move the video window of the person talking to the very top-center of your screen, right under the camera hardware.
Why: You will look away sometimes. By keeping the person's face very close to the camera lens, you keep your eye movement small enough that it doesn't look like a major mistake.
The Pro (Mid-Level to Senior)
Moving past the "how-to" of hardware setup and into the "why" of looking like a leader. At this point, eye contact isn't just polite etiquette; it's a skill used to speed up decisions, show that you are quick, and build trust with other teams.
Business Goal: Getting People to Agree Faster
When giving important presentations, looking at the camera makes everyone feel like you are talking just to them at the same time. This direct feeling cuts through the doubt that often comes with remote meetings, making your facts seem more solid and your suggestions easier to accept.
Smooth Running: Controlling Who Talks and When
Looking at the camera shows you are "listening actively" and "ready to go," which keeps meetings running well. By balancing looking at the lens (to speak) and the screen (to notice faces), you stop people from talking over each other, which is a common problem when people aren't focused. This makes meetings less tiring for everyone.
Team Conflicts: Staying Calm When Different Teams Clash
When you have to deliver bad news or argue for resources between different teams (like IT versus Sales), keeping a steady look into the camera shows you are being open and honest. This builds the trust needed for teams to work together when things get tough.
Mastery (Lead to Executive Level)
At the top level, eye contact is not just about following digital rules; it's a tool used by leaders to show their authority, manage risks, and make sure everyone, including the Board, agrees with the plan.
Power Plays: Non-Verbal Orders
When in big negotiations or talking to the Board, how long you look at the camera shows how strongly you believe in your words. Use your Main Gaze during your most important points (those 15 seconds where you explain the "why" behind a big change) to send a direct message that you are accountable and trustworthy.
Strategy: Knowing When to Focus on Growth vs. Defense
When you are Pushing for Growth (selling a new idea), keep your eye contact on the camera 80% of the time to look confident. When you are Defending Against Problems (managing a crisis), switch your look to watch the small reactions of others so you can adjust your words right away to keep everyone calm.
The Future: Showing You Are Stable
Use the Anchor Gaze to show stability when things are uncertain. Keep a calm, steady look at the camera, even when listening. This shows you are the steady leader who won't be shaken by small problems, which is key for long-term company success.
Get Better at Eye Contact on Video Calls: Where to Look with Cruit
To Feel Confident
Interview PracticePractice your planned answers beforehand so you have enough brainpower left to keep your eyes steady and confident.
To Connect
NetworkingPrepare short, personal things to say for virtual chats so you can stay focused and keep looking at the camera instead of reading notes.
To Learn
Journaling ToolUse our AI Journal to write down what happened and track your improvement in non-verbal skills, making sure your growth in soft skills is noticed.
Common Questions About the Lens-First Method
If I look at the camera, won't I miss the small emotional reactions from the audience?
This is a worry people have when they are still at Level 1. The goal of the Lens-First Method is not to stare at the camera all the time; it's to master the Switching Look.
You look at the camera when saying your main points to show confidence and make sure your message has a strong impact. Then, you smartly switch your look to the screen when listening to read what the group is feeling.
By switching on purpose, you actually notice more important signs because people are more likely to show their real feelings to a speaker who seems to be looking them in the eye.
Doesn't staring straight into the camera for too long seem unnatural or even rude?
If it feels weird, it means you haven't mastered Level 1 yet. To the viewer, looking at the lens is the only way they feel you are making "eye contact."
As for seeming rude, Level 3 (Total Visual Control) isn't about a huge, wide stare; it's about Calm Focus. It's the steady look of a leader who is comfortable when there's silence and who controls the digital space.
When you switch your look between intense speaking and listening "checks," you don't seem mean—you seem focused, confident, and fully in charge of the meeting.
I feel awkward looking at a camera light instead of a person's face. How do I get over this?
Think of the camera lens as representing the most important person in the meeting.
Most people fail here because they treat the screen like a mirror (staring at themselves) or a TV (just watching). To help bridge this gap, put a small marker (like a sticky note with an arrow or a small picture) right above or behind the camera lens.
This helps your brain get used to the spot until looking there feels natural, changing the lens from just a piece of equipment into a tool for leading others.
Focus on what matters.
Changing to The Lens-First Method is more than just moving where you look; it's a total shift in how people see you digitally. By ditching the "looking down" habit of the person who just watches, you stop being someone who Asks for Things (someone looking at the screen for approval or validation). Instead, you become a Planner, a leader who knows that online, the camera lens is the main way you show your power.
By going through the steps of Following Rules, Trying to Persuade, and finally Showing Total Control, you perfect your digital presence. You stop just showing up to meetings; you take charge of the digital space, using Calm Focus to win over the room and make sure your authority is strong, no matter the screen. As you move from just a regular person in a meeting to a top leader, let Cruit help you manage the challenges of being a leader today.
