Main Points: Better Networking Tricks
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The Short Time Request Ask for exactly 12 or 17 minutes of their time. This shows you have a clear plan and won't waste their next appointment.
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The Problem Solver Approach Talk about a "problem" you're trying to fix instead of a job you need. This brings out their natural desire to help you figure things out.
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Always Ask for More Names End every chat by asking for two other people you should talk to. This turns one meeting into a chain of warm introductions.
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Closing the Loop Follow up weeks later telling them what you did based on their advice. This proves you respect their input and builds a long-term connection.
Getting Connections Right
Your mouse cursor blinks on an empty screen, matching the nervous beat in your chest. You've rewritten your message again and again, deleting anything that sounds like pleading. You are stuck in the problem of one-sided giving—you feel certain you are taking up someone's valuable time when you have nothing to offer but your own need.
The usual advice is to ignore this feeling and just send lots of messages to important people, no matter how generic. But this "quantity over quality" method is draining your energy and ruining your confidence. It turns human relationships into cold business deals that leave everyone tired and discouraged.
An informational interview isn't about asking for a favor; it's a smart exchange of information that only works if you stop asking for permission and start offering a clear, well-thought-out reason for the connection.
Real Strategy vs. Sending Spam Messages
Many career coaches tell you that networking is just about volume: "Send 20 template messages on LinkedIn every day!" That's not networking; that's sending junk mail.
This is just being lazy while pretending to "hustle." When you send the same message to everyone, you aren't connecting; you're annoying people. This makes job seekers from any background look like they lack effort or real interest.
This means putting in the work: researching one person and asking one smart, specific question. It means acting like a real person who is curious.
If you are doing the "smart action" work—writing specific notes, researching, and being polite—but you still feel like you are annoying everyone and begging for attention every day, the problem might not be your method. It might be the industry you're targeting or the current job you're trying to leave.
You can’t fix a bad situation by just networking harder if the environment itself is closed off or toxic. If you constantly feel like you are begging for scraps of attention, you are in the wrong environment. Stop trying to convince people who aren't listening and start planning a clear move to a place that actually needs what you offer. Stop pushing on a locked door and find the one that is already open for you.
Using Cruit to Improve Your Interviews
For Reaching Out
Networking ToolOur AI guide helps you think of smart questions and write messages that show you respect the other person's time.
For First Impressions
LinkedIn Profile MakerMake sure your LinkedIn page looks trustworthy so that when people look you up after talking to you, they want to help.
For Keeping Notes
Note-Taking ToolQuickly write down the key advice you get from meetings so you can easily find it later and use it.
Answering Questions About Connecting
Will a busy person think I’m wasting their time since I can’t give them a job or a business lead back?
Not usually. Most successful people enjoy sharing what they know and guiding people who show real potential.
When you show up with good research and smart questions, you aren't just "taking" their time; you are giving them an interesting conversation and a fresh look at their own field.
If I don't get a reply, does that mean my message was bad or that I'm not experienced enough for them?
No, it usually doesn't. When someone doesn't reply, it's almost always about their schedule, not about you personally.
Busy people get tons of emails, so a silent inbox usually just means you should send a polite follow-up message later, or move on to the next person on your list.
Focus on what truly matters.
Informational interviews change the game. You stop asking for a job and start collecting the "insider facts" that make you the obvious choice. Stop letting luck decide your path and start taking charge by talking to people who can truly help you turn strangers into supporters.
Getting good at these talks changes you from just another person applying for jobs to a strategic person who builds their own path forward through strong relationships.
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