Summary of Main Points
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The 10% Rule In your first message, only share a small part of what you know to show your value. Leave the other 90% to make them want to talk to you more.
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Think Like an Investor Don't think of your knowledge as a free gift. See it as money you are investing to see which people in the market value what you have to say.
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Spot Problems Before They Happen Use smart tools to look at company reports or leader posts for signs of trouble. Only reach out when you see a clear issue that your special knowledge can help fix right now.
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Create a Knowledge Loop Instead of telling them exactly what to do, describe a "pattern you've observed." This makes the talk a shared discovery rather than you lecturing them.
How Experienced Leaders Can Use Their Knowledge Wisely
When you reach an important point in your career, most advice tells you to start over or go back to basic networking rules. This is a mistake. If you have years of experience, you have a huge amount of valuable knowledge built up. You need to manage this knowledge, not ignore it.
The common advice to always "give first" works well for people just starting out who offer energy or simple tasks. But for seasoned leaders, offering your best advice for free creates the Experience Problem. Your high-level insights can easily sound like you are judging their work or that you are giving an unasked-for review.
This guide is not about being nice. It’s a practical guide to mastering how to use your knowledge effectively in the market, which we call Intellectual Liquidity.
The numbers make the stakes clear. According to Wave Connect’s 2025 networking research, 54% of U.S. workers land their next role through personal connections rather than job boards. Referrals account for just 2% of job applications yet generate 11% of all hires — roughly 10 times the conversion rate of cold applications (LinkedIn Pulse, 2025). For senior leaders, how you share expertise in those personal conversations is the real differentiator.
Instead of thinking about giving your help as something you do in exchange for a future favor, you should see your knowledge as money that needs to move around to stay valuable.
When you focus on "sharing ideas" instead of "helping," you avoid the trap of looking like a free consultant. This approach smartly tests the market to see which ideas people value most, naturally leading to important connections without stepping on anyone's toes.
What Is the "Give First" Rule?
The "give first" rule of networking means offering genuine value to someone before making any request. For early-career professionals, that often means energy or small tasks. For experienced leaders, it means sharing a precise industry insight or useful resource that demonstrates expertise, earns attention, and starts a real conversation without the awkwardness of a cold ask.
The concept is rooted in Adam Grant's research on givers vs. takers: professionals who lead with generosity build stronger, longer-lasting networks over time. The challenge is that most "give first" advice was written with entry-level networkers in mind. When you have 15 or 20 years of experience, the rules change — and giving too freely can actually work against you.
Stop Making These Common Mistakes That Hurt Your Image
Your experience is powerful, but the way you share it might make you look desperate or arrogant. To be seen as the respected expert you are, you must look closely at how you "give value."
You spot an issue in a company and immediately point it out, offering a quick fix or a list of changes. While you think you are helping, the person running things might see it as a personal criticism of their skills.
Stop telling them what they are doing wrong inside their company. Instead, share outside information about what's happening in the market. For example, say, "I saw this market data about X, and I thought it might be useful for your next planning session." You aren't fixing their mistakes; you're giving them the latest weather forecast.
You hold back your best ideas because you worry they won't hire you if you give the solution away for free. You offer general advice that sounds like it came from a book, which makes you seem uninteresting and easily replaced.
Use your knowledge actively. Share your strongest opinions about "What" is happening and "Why" it matters, without holding back. By showing them what the core issue is and why it's important, you prove you are the only one who knows how to build the fix. You aren't giving away the answer; you are proving you own the expertise.
You offer something with the hidden expectation of getting something back. People can sense this neediness. This acts like a cheap bribe and makes you look less important than you really are.
See your ideas as money that needs to move to stay valuable. You aren't helping one person; you are testing your ideas to see which ones the market likes best. When you share an idea and don't ask for anything in return, you show you are a top leader who is too busy and successful to worry about small favors.
How to Put This Knowledge into Action
Seasoned leaders often have too much experience, making it hard to break their knowledge down into small, shareable pieces that don't sound too heavy.
Find your "Intellectual Liquidity"—smart, portable ideas that fixed past problems without you having to do all the work. Group these into three small thoughts about your industry that you can bring up easily in a chat. This changes your goal from "helping" to "testing ideas" to see which ones get noticed.
Don't trade your time for free; trade your view on a market change that the other person is currently struggling with.
Giving advice before being asked often makes people feel like you are judging their work or criticizing them.
Share your knowledge by framing it as a general industry pattern, not a review of their specific company. Instead of saying "You must do X," try saying "I've seen a trend where Y is happening, and I wonder if you are seeing that too?" This lets you show how much you know while keeping the conversation friendly and protecting the other person's feelings.
The best sign that you are a real authority isn't knowing the answer; it's asking the one question that proves you've already fixed this problem before.
Senior people worry that if they share their best ideas for free, the company will just take the idea and not hire them.
Give away the Diagnosis (what the problem is) but keep the Prescription (the step-by-step plan). Show them why the problem exists and what the final goal should look like. This builds huge trust. Once they see you understand the root cause better than anyone, they will want to hire you to manage the complex details of making it happen.
When the talk moves from "That's interesting" to "How would we actually do that?", stop giving free advice and suggest a formal meeting to talk about a plan.
Once that formal meeting is on the calendar, what you do next matters just as much as the initial outreach. Learn how to follow up after networking conversations in a way that keeps momentum without coming across as pushy.
The Truth About "Giving First" When You're Experienced
Everyone says you should "give first" when networking. But here’s the awkward truth: if you are looking for a job or are junior, you feel like you have nothing of real value to offer a senior person. If that initial reluctance sounds familiar, you’re not alone — overcoming the fear of networking is a real challenge that even experienced professionals face before they master this approach.
Because of this difference in power, "giving first" feels phony. You end up not contacting them at all because you don't want to seem rude or arrogant. You know you want a job, they know you want a job, and pretending you are there just to "add value" feels like a lie.
"Hi [Name], I saw your recent post about the change toward AI in supply chain. Today I found this specific report [Link] that shows a problem most people are overlooking. Since you are guiding the changes at [Company], I thought this might save you some time researching it. You don’t need to reply, I just wanted to share something relevant while I follow your work!"
To get around this awkwardness, stop thinking of "giving" as doing a job or offering a business lead. Instead, think of yourself as a Curator. Senior leaders don't lack information; they lack time and aren't always aware of what’s happening on the ground. You aren't giving them expert advice; you are giving them a shortcut by finding something important so they don't have to search for it.
Why this works better:
- It removes pressure: Telling them "No reply needed" takes away the need for them to feel obligated.
- It shows you pay attention: It proves you understand their work.
- It’s a low-cost gift: You aren't asking for a job right away; you are just being a high-quality source of useful information in a sea of noise. You aren't giving them a heavy gift; you are giving them a useful shortcut.
Cruit Tools to Help You Use This "Give First" Method
For Saving Ideas
Journaling ToolMakes turning your long career experience into small, shareable ideas easy by using an AI Journal Coach.
For Reaching Out
Networking ToolGives you the right way to start conversations using AI-written openers so you don't sound like you're just criticizing their company.
For Closing Deals
Career Guidance ToolUses a questioning method to guide talks from free advice toward creating a real plan for them to hire you for the work.
Common Questions Answered
If I share my best ideas for free, won't people think I'm less valuable?
Actually, the opposite is usually true. Sharing a smart, high-level idea shows you can see problems others miss. Think of it like a great movie preview—you show the best parts to prove the whole movie is worth buying. By sharing your ideas, you prove your knowledge is active and valuable, which makes you a better candidate or partner.
How do I give an insight without sounding like I'm attacking their work?
The trick is to present your idea as something happening in the whole market, not something wrong with their specific company. Try saying, "I've noticed the whole industry is moving toward X lately, and I wonder how that's affecting leaders like you." This changes the talk from an unrequested review to a shared look at market changes.
What if I don’t have a huge idea ready to go in a conversation?
You don’t always need a brand-new, amazing idea. Sometimes, the best thing you can "give" is your ability to connect two different things you already know or point out a pattern from your past work that fits their current problem. Your value is in putting things together. If you’re stuck, asking a smart, deep question that makes them think differently is also a valuable contribution to the talk.
Is it better to give value first or ask directly for a job?
Asking directly for a job almost never works in a cold context, especially at the senior level. The "give first" approach works because it establishes you as a peer, not a supplicant. Once you’ve shared a relevant insight and had one genuine exchange, a direct conversation about roles becomes far more natural — and far more likely to lead somewhere. Give first, ask second, and only after credibility is established.
How do I know if the person I reached out to is interested?
Genuine interest shows up in three ways: they reply with a question rather than just a "thanks," they share the insight with someone else and mention you, or they bring up your idea in a later conversation. If none of that happens after one or two well-crafted messages, move on. Chasing cold contacts signals desperation, which undercuts the authority you’ve worked to project.
Focus on what matters.
Stop acting like you are starting over at the beginning of your career. Your years of experience are not a problem that makes you "too qualified"; they are your most important assets. By using Intellectual Liquidity, you turn your deep experience into a strong advantage that others can't copy easily. You aren't just "helping" people; you are carefully sharing your ideas to see where they are most effective. Stop keeping your knowledge locked away and start moving it around like the valuable currency it is.
Find one key observation about your industry today and share it with someone you know.
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